What is foreplay and why is it so important?

What is foreplay and why is it so important?

Foreplay is something that a lot of people neglect, even though it can be one of the most important parts of sex. It’s a part of our sex lives that we put off because we don’t know how to jump into physical intimacy. That’s why knowing the why’s and how’s is important if you want to have an amazing sexual relationship in the bedroom.

Foreplay is the time before you have sex, during which you get turned on and ready for action. It’s a critical part of sex for both men and women — and it’s also a lot of fun. Foreplay for many couples can actually be even more exciting and fulfilling than the actual sexual intercourse.

What Is Foreplay?

Foreplay is any type of sexual activity that leads up towards sexual intimacy, or intercourse.

Foreplay is the act of stimulating someone’s sexual desire and arousal, culminating in sexual activity. It may include kissing, cuddling, stroking, tickling and massages.

There are two commonly accepted types of foreplay. The first is the more physical approach which involves touching, caressing, and even in some instances, full sex. These methods definitely have their place in the overall process of foreplay. The other type involves mental stimulation such as flirting and use of sexual innuendos or verbal communication.

Why is Foreplay Important?

Foreplay is essential to most women’s sexual satisfaction and overall enjoyment. It requires some touching, kissing, licking and sucking (often on the breasts, neck and inner thighs). To get her started, use your hands all over her body, especially where she is most sensitive (e.g., between her legs). If she’s not feeling it yet, you could try kissing her lips or neck while stroking her back with your hands.

It is important to communicate with each other and find out what feels good, where your spouse likes to be touched and make intimate communication as part of your foreplay.

Foreplay is important because it helps you get in the mood and get excited. It also makes your body more sensitive to stimulation, which can lead to better orgasms. If you’re not comfortable with kissing, for example, then start slow — with touching or holding hands.

It also helps increase sexual arousal; It builds anticipation; It helps you relax; It creates emotional closeness between you as a couple; It creates intimacy; It increases trust; It allows both spouses to be ready for intercourse.

Foreplay helps set the overall mood for sex by getting both of you aroused so you want each other more than ever before! The whole process may take anywhere from 30 seconds to 30 minutes depending on how long it takes for both of you to be completely turned on. Foreplay is vital as it allows both spouses the time to get mentally and physically turned on and ready for sexual intimacy.

Studies show that people who engage in foreplay before sex report higher levels of sexual satisfaction than those who don’t. But many people are still confused about what constitutes foreplay and why it matters.

Sex therapist Ian Kerner said: “People tend to think of foreplay as something that comes before intercourse. But I prefer to think of it as something that happens throughout.”

Foreplay is a vital part of the sexual experience. It’s the time when you get to know each other and connect in a way that makes for great sex later on.

Foreplay is important because it allows you to get comfortable with one another and build anticipation for what’s to come. It allows you to show affection, which is an important part of any relationship, especially one that involves sex.

Not only that, but foreplay can make it easier for a woman to orgasm during intercourse. Most women needs more stimulation than just vaginal penetration, and if they get that from oral or manual stimulation during foreplay, they will be more likely to achieve orgasm during sex.

Check out podcast episode 30. It’s All About The Clitoris! The Key To Unlocking Female Pleasure with Cindy Scharkey to learn how important the clitoris is in foreplay and sexual intimacy.

The benefits of foreplay go beyond just making her more likely to orgasm — they also help both spouses feel more comfortable with each other and enjoy their time together more fully (and enjoy sex more fully as well).

Foreplay is vital to making sex intimacy much more enjoyable for both spouses. Foreplay can make the experience of sex more satisfying, it can help you to get aroused, and it can even make sex feel better. Don’t overlook the importance of foreplay in your marriage.

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